Posted by Sandra Clifton on Sep 10, 2014 in The Science of Happiness
Well, it was free, so I signed up to audit an online course created by the University of California at Berkeley. ((It’s the first MOOC to teach positive psychology—learn more about this exciting experiment.)) My first homework assignment—ungraded of course, because any evaluated effort would NOT make me happy!—is to spend 10 minutes thinking of “three good things.”
Here are mine today:
*Good Thing #1: Watching the sweetest girl in the world sing the song from Frozen, “Let It Go.” Her energy and love are absolutely inspiring: watch it here!
*Good Thing #2: I got to leave the office and catch a Pilates class at the gym tonight with my favorite instructor—whoo-hooo! (Most evenings I am in sessions until after 8pm, so this was a wonderful thing for sure!)
*Good Thing #3: I treated myself to framing a certificate from the seminar that I attended in Italy about helping clients heal from psychological trauma, and hung it in my office. Not only is this a beautiful memento, but now I feel the presence of my professor, encouraging me to keep going on…
Okay, that was a really nice ten minutes. Now you try.
Here’s to happiness–yours and mine.
Posted by Sandra Clifton on Jun 26, 2014 in Academic Coaching
, Health & Wholeness
Want a great tip for instigating efficiency, getting unstuck, or just helping ideas to flow again? Get up and get GOING: one of the best strategies for helping kids (and ourselves) to unlock our brains is to move our bods…!
Recently, I read this quote from a text on ADHD: “When I get bogged down on a project,” reflects Susan, an OT in California, “I go walking and am able to get the whole concept. Then I can move forward.” Brilliant, right?
The next time you or someone in your family gets frustrated, smile and say, “Oh, go take a hike!” They just might thank you. ;) And if you need support to get in the flow this summer, don’t hesitate to reach out—in the meantime, see ya on the trails!
Posted by Sandra Clifton on Apr 30, 2014 in Academic Coaching
As we head down to the wire for college decisions due on May 1st, I met with a senior client and his mother today…It was an intense discussion and a rewarding one. The family walked in with a “great problem”—four choices—and they left with clarity about the one that’s the best fit for their son. This is why I do my work: to help support the journey of owning who we are and claiming our authenticity.
When it comes right down to it, after all the charts and graphs are drawn with pro’s and con’s, what matters most is actually in our gut. What I admire so greatly, especially about this particular student, is that he really did his homework—so that after months of visits and interviews, he could release all the rankings and reports and trust what felt best in the end—which is really just the beginning….
I do my research too. In the last month, I’ve attended two really great meetings on college admissions, and I’d like to share a potpourri of perspectives that I gained through one of them. I promise to offer more tid-bits from Cooper Union soon. In the meantime…
The NYSACAC Regional Forum—held at the Lincoln Center Campus of Fordham University:
* One important insight I learned from a former college counselor at Cooper Union is that, although CUNY doesn’t require essays, YOU SHOULD STILL SEND THEM!
* If your essay gives a “voice” that really speaks to someone on the admissions team, there is often a rule that each person “gets just one.” This means that every member on the committee gets to have one student admitted, with no questions asked. You might be That One if you take the chance to really speak your truth in that essay…
* Often, admissions teams have individuals with a “niche” population—for example, Fordham has a special person who reads applications of homeschooled students.
* Colleges are looking for students who are able to translate how their institution’s values have been pursued by the applicant during high school. Students need to “connect the dots” as to how they have invested their time in academics and extra-curriculars that directly relate to the college’s programs.
* One of my colleagues who used to work at Columbia University did a study there about students who declared majors on their applications vs. their majors at graduation, and unless the student was a computer science major or engineer, there was absolutely NO correlation: 0%.
* If you are an athlete, be careful of NON-approved NCAA high school courses, as they may jeopardize your eligibility to play. You can learn more at www.eligibilitycenter.org.
I hope this information provides some insight for your college journey. And if you need someone to help you sort through the great options once they come trickling in….you can always find clarity with me at the Corner.
Posted by Sandra Clifton on Mar 17, 2014 in Academic Coaching
I just got off the phone with one of the mothers of my three senior clients, who I’ll call “Amy.” I’ve been working with Amy since she was in 8th grade, and we’ve now received three amazing college acceptances to some truly wonderful liberal arts schools. I couldn’t be more happy, as all of my encouragement that the VOICE on her college essay is what would be the loudest has come true…. despite struggles with standardized testing, high school disappointments, and other bobbles along the way…One admission rep even made a note about how touched she was by Amy’s personal essay on the meaning of family. What’s even more interesting is that, although my client was accepted to her “dream college,” the personalized attention from another institution has given her pause…and she may actually change her mind to attend the school that is truly “seeing” what Amy has to offer and recognizing her unique gifts. THIS is what it’s all about at the Clifton Corner, but that’s a blog for another day…For now, I want to pass along some important stats and facts that may help to inform you better about the college process. They are originally compiled and provided by college guru and author, Ana Homayoun, Founder and Director of Green Ivy Educational Consulting:
College Admissions by Numbers
31% of colleges offering Early Action (EA)
65% Percent of EA applicants admitted
84% Percent of college freshmen who think they will graduate in four years
38% Actual percentage of students who graduate from college in four years
80% Percent of valedictorians rejected by Harvard every year
69% Percent of applicants with a perfect SAT score of 2400 rejected by Stanford
Facts and Figures
“More colleges are offering Early Decision (ED) and Early Action (EA) and more students are utilizing these options. ED can give an advantage at highly selective colleges and some of those schools fill up to 40% of their freshman class with ED. Personally, I like the Early Action option for students who are solid candidates and have appropriate grades and test scores – apply early and hear early, with no commitment to attend. While I believe Early Decision is an option that can enhance the odds of admission at highly selective schools, it must be considered very carefully.
Many high schools are dropping the class ranking from a student’s profile, and admissions counselors are placing a greater emphasis on a student’s curriculum, activities, and demonstrated interest (how badly do you want to go to the school?).
In 1982, 74% college freshmen went to their first choice school. In 2012, 59% went to their first choice school. In 2012, 13% could not afford to go to their first choice school. 76% believe current economics had an effect on where they matriculated. I believe there need to be multiple “first choice” schools and students should include financial “likely” schools in the mix as well.
84% of college freshmen believe they will graduate from college in four years. National statistics show only 38% do. Despite being worried about financing for college, many end up paying for a fifth year, especially when going to larger public colleges and universities. In other words, look past the tuition price and factor in time to graduate, as well as merit scholarships at private schools. For example, in California, the typical time to degree for entering freshmen at the California State Universityis 5.6 years. Typical time to degree for entering freshmen at the University of California school is 4.2 years. This needs to be factored into the cost of the college.
There are 19,000 seats in the entire Ivy League’s freshman class – all 8 of them combined (and there are 25,000 high schools in the US – do the math!). Harvard rejects 80% of the valedictorians who apply each year (and 94% of everyone else).
69% of the Stanford applicants who scored a perfect 2400 on the SAT were rejected. When a college has an admit rate of less than 30% (and Stanford’s is about 7%), then it is tough even for the applicant who is valedictorian or who aces the SAT. We always work with students to create a college list and apply broadly with dream, target, and likely colleges.
Approximately 2.94 million students graduate from 25,000 high schools each year. This means each college applicant is competing against 25,000 valedictorians, 25,000 salutatorians, 25,000 editors-in-chief, and 25,000 student body presidents. If they are wise, they are applying to some of the most competitive colleges, some less competitive, and one of their own state university.
Acceptance rates for four-year institutions declined slightly during the past decade, from a national average of 69.6 percent in 2002 to 63.8 percent in 2011. So, don’t despair – there are colleges for everyone who desires to go to college.”
I couldn’t agree more…But just remember that at the Corner, it’s not about the score–I’m here to help your son or daughter SOAR. And I’ve got all kinds of examples of how that happens through individualized attention and intuitive educational support. Don’t wait until my calendar is full this summer: contact me this spring to schedule some sessions for that amazing essay that will get Y*O*U*R young person in the door~!
I grew up in a world where adults were involved in my life—a lot. Almost too much. Of course, I was both a preacher’s kid and a teacher’s daughter, and everyone had a voice about how I lived my life. In fact, I actually got lost in everyone else’s opinions. But I heard a program on NPR the other day about how kids feel like the only thing that adults ask them these days is, “How’s school?” Oh, how droll. We can do better than that. And we should.
Here are some lovely guidelines about how to connect with kids in a deeper, more genuine way—provided by The Search Institute:
Adults can . . .
- Listen to young people.
- Notice young people’s contributions and gifts.
- Ask young people for their advice.
- Include young people in decisions.
- Give young people meaningful roles.
- Help young people make their dreams come true.
- Find out young people’s opinions.
- Celebrate young people’s accomplishments.
- Take seriously young people’s fears and worries.
- Learn the reasons for young people’s feelings.
- See young people as important contributors to your community in the present and in the future.
- Learn about music, books, and activities that are important to young people.
Would you like support to connect with your kid? I’d love to explore how that can happen. Don’t hesitate to reach out.
Posted by Sandra Clifton on Feb 17, 2014 in Academic Coaching
When I visited London, the “Tube” (or subway) offers a warning that announces, “MIND THE GAP.” There is a space midst the platform landing and the moving train. It’s the open area between our current place of solid footing and the vehicle that will take us to the next destination. However, we need to be mindful of falling into the little crevice that opens between now and where we are going…
On this holiday, it’s nice to take a moment and view this open space…Hopefully, you and your family are on holiday from school and work, and recharging your batteries. It’s important to take time away to “reboot” our energy, especially during these recent winter months of wicked weather. What I would like to offer as perspective today is that the gap is a place to honor the unknown. It’s also (however small—) a reminder of taking a leap. We might have a set plan or definite destination, but before those train doors open, we still stand on the precipice of a journey: what sometimes seems mundane (our daily school or work commute) can involve an interaction or opportunity that was never presented to us before. We might encounter an event that was not at all expected….but it’s all a part of the adventure.
What happens, however, is that—especially when working on a challenging assignment—my students view that “final destination” in their heads but when they approach it on paper or look at the open computer screen, they can’t seem to create the magic that they see in their minds. It’s like watching a movie in your head that no one else can see in a regular movie theater. This is highly frustrating for my clients, and it causes a lot of doubt. In fact, some of my students stand on the platform and won’t take that little leap. They “mind the gap” so much that they won’t take the first step and hop on that train. The subway spins by and as the doors of opportunity open each time, they look and wish—but cannot move forward…
That’s why I stand as a bridge in this mysterious and sometimes dark place. I hold out my hand to students, with one foot in the train and one foot on the platform. I push open the doors and say, “You can do this. I am here. Jump!” Sometimes they can only travel to the next stop. Sometimes we’re able to switch lines and travel to a whole new territory. And eventually, my clients are able to navigate the journey alone and experience a sense of autonomy. It just takes practice. And persistence. And a willingness to see that “getting there” is really a never-ending process.
So here’s a video today that talks about the gap. See what you think–
I love the unknown. It’s so full of potential.
And so is your journey.
Posted by Sandra Clifton on Feb 8, 2014 in Learning Differences
As mentioned in my last post, I missed the goal of blogging each week due to starting a very intense certification program in educational therapy at the University of California-Riverside’s online course extension. My ultimate goal is to become a Board Certified Educational Therapist, and then I promised my mom that I’ll stop the “additional credential” process, and just settle into maintaining my certifications as a licensed teacher in English/Language Arts & Special Education; as a Professional Certified Coach; and eventually as a BCET.
So, what exactly is an educational therapist?
The Association of Educational Therapists defines this profession as “the clinical practice of providing intensive, individualized compensatory and remedial intervention. Intervention approaches take into account the social, emotional, and neuro-biological factors that impact an individual’s learning….with various types of learning disabilities and other learning challenges, such as dyslexia; ADD; language processing problems; poor motivation; low academic self-esteem; poor social, organizational, and study skills; and performance anxiety.”
The beautiful thing about this profession is that there are many different ways to reach children, and we each have our own unique style of supporting students, which is one reason why it is so in alignment with who I am and how I serve my Corner Community. I help both students and their parents to demystify learning challenges and decode school expectations, through a strengths-based approach I’ve developed from years of experience as a former teacher and intense training as a professional certified coach.
For me, entering into a partnership with a client family means that I am 110% committed to the possibility and potential of the unique individual who is their daughter or son. Through tools I’ve gained from working with hundreds of students, I encourage each distinctively different soul to open up to who they are—and who they can become—in the process of…
* providing therapeutic listening;
* instigating creative problem solving;
* encouraging intellectual, social, & artistic curiosity;
* and helping my kids to develop courage to dive into the adventure of authenticity.
Quite simply: I empower individuals to face the emotional landscape that impacts their ability to learn. It is an amazing journey….and each day in the UCR Extension program, I am gaining new angles of insight into this craft…
One of my favorite quotes (thus far) echos my approach exactly:
“…the work of an educational therapist requires that she regards the practice, especially the scrutiny of individual case studies, as puzzles to be solved. The puzzle is a work-in-progress, always in motion, and never ‘perfect.’ “
-Maxine Ficksman & Jane Utley Adelizzi
Here’s to embracing the process of unfolding and discovering~
Posted by Sandra Clifton on Jan 27, 2014 in Learning Differences
One of the goals I set last fall was to post a blog each week, but I missed my deadline here last Monday—and Tuesday, and each day…One of the reasons is because I’ve just enrolled in a new online program through the University of California-Riverside Extension to earn official certification in Educational Therapy. While this professional path grew organically as a result of my ‘past life’ as a high school English teacher and certified life coach in Emotional Literacy, a dedicated and highly esteemed organization called the Association of Educational Therapists has been organizing and guiding the efforts of individuals in this field for the last 35 years—and the roots of educational therapy began over one hundred years ago…
Because I am doing so much writing for the first course I’m taking, Principles of Educational Therapy, I wanted to share a few posts from my classwork online. Later this week, I’ll devote a post to defining educational therapy in more depth. This post will offer a panoramic view of the development of this profession:
A Historical Trajectory of Educational Therapy ~
1800’s—Edward Segin organized the first “educational system for mentally retarded children” (45); “The evolutionary roots of educational therapy developed….in Europe, as professionals relied upon their clinical observations and treatment of exceptional children” (Ficksman & Adelizzi 61).
1920’s—August Aichorn in Belgium developed the term “heilpedagogie” to mean “helping teacher”; Anna Freud, Alfred Adler contributed to the “roots” of therapeutic education to provide interventions and “maximize the individual’s emotional and intellectual potential” (46).
1925—Wayward Youth was published by Aichorn, which examined antisocial behavior of young people.
1935—Anna Gillingham wrote Remedial Training for Children with Specific Learning Disability in Reading, Spelling, and Penmanship (52).
1940’s—Marianne Frostig in Los Angeles started to provide direct services to students with learning disabilities, paralleling development in this field in Europe (45); Katrina de Hirsch immigrated from Vienna to America and worked with Samuel T. Orton.
1950’s—Barbara Biber created the developmental-interaction theory at Bank Street College; Mary Kunst was “among the first in the Midwest to use the term educational therapy to describe her work as a tutor of children with learning impairments” (54).
1951—The Marianne Frostig Center was established in the Los Angeles area to provide training for educational therapy (47).
1953—Carl Fenichel began to question existing models for working with youth and became Director of the League School for Seriously Disturbed Children in Brooklyn, NY (47).
1960’s—Katrina de Hirsch practiced and published as an educational therapist in New York City; “therapeutic teachers” were trained at Manhattanville Community Centers in an experimental housing project (48); W.W. Lewis challenged the assumption of the medical model that “emotional disturbance reflects an underlying pathology within a child” (48); Deborah Zimmerman created The National Institute for Learning Development (NILD) Educational Therapy program (54-55).
1964—The Gateway School & Stephen Gaynor School were established in NYC (52).
1966—Fenichel suggested that the problems of youth in school might be”…more closely related to serious learning disorders and language handicaps than to repression of traumatic childhood memories or unresolved intrapsychic confilicts” (47).
1968—Ruth Mallison wrote Education as Therapy (47).
1970’s—Dorothy Ungerleider started what became AET, through chartering a study group in her living room, which eventually spearheaded The Educational Therapist Journal (Dann & 57).
1973—Irene Caspari established the Forum for the Advancement of Educational Therapy (FAET) in the UK (55).
1977—Katrina de Hirsch published her “seminal article” on the definition of the educational therapist (46).
1979—Dorothy Ungerleider became the founding President of AET, which “defines an educational therapist as a professional who combines both educational and therapeutic approaches for evaluation, remediation, case management, and communication/advocacy on behalf of individuals of all ages with learning disabilities or learning problems.”
1980’s—The AET began to provide training for educational therapists (56) through professional development workshops/seminars and then in university programs.
1982—Betty Osman wrote No One to Play With: The Social Side of Learning Disabilities (49).
1985—The Code of Ethics and Standards for the Professional Practice of Educational Therapy was adopted and approved by the AET Executive Committee in February, adapted from the Council of Exceptional Children’s Code of Ethics and Standards.
1992—the UCR Extension program began providing the curriculum of educational therapy (56) for students.
1995—Dorothy Ungerleider published The History of Educational Therapy Reconsidered, which chronicled the various forms of “therapeutic education” (46).
2000—Phyllis Maslow and Dorothy Ungerleider studied the efficacy of educational therapy as a profession (Dann).
2007—the National Joint Committee on Learning Disabilities recognized AET as an organization leading the way to serve students with academic and learning challenges (Dann & 60).
2008—Nancy Ratey wrote The Disorganized Mind and began efforts to educate Harvard University about the needs of students with learning disabilities (53).
2013—AET celebrated its 35th Annual Conference in California, “Stress: Understanding Its Impact on Learning.”
Personal Perspective—from my background
Because I am weaving together experience as a teacher along with my work as a Program Coach & Master Trainer of Emotional Literacy at Yale University, I can see that Educational Therapy juxtaposes many eclectic domains to serve children who have special needs, emotional obstacles, and learning differences. For example, I have recently seen an intersection of yoga therapy and mindfulness, along with art therapy, dance therapy, and sound therapy as tools for the educational therapist. These different modalities and professional fields help to inform and enrich our work with students so that a multi-sensory approach to learning can come to life in our private practices. I believe that educational therapy is one of the most exciting and innovative professions, because of its rich history and real potential to shape the future of young people’s lives—and perhaps even to revolutionize education in America. The courage and conviction of pioneers from the past have carved a foundation for us to expand upon with research, case studies, and continued commitment. I cannot imagine how much my life would have been improved by an educational therapist when I was in school, and I look forward to offering the kind of sensitive support for students that I needed when I was struggling to “make sense” of the puzzle pieces that are both essential and integral to real learning and authentic growth.
Ficksman, Maxine and Adelizzi, Jane Utley. The Clinical Practice of Educational Therapy: A Teaching Model. New York: Routledge, 2010.
Posted by Sandra Clifton on Jan 13, 2014 in Emotional Literacy
When I share with others that I’m a certified coach in Social & Emotional Literacy, people often ask, “Can you teach empathy?” It’s a great question, and I believe that the answer is YES. Absolutely. And there is even more research out there every day to help us in this effort. But often (as I’ve said many times before–) “less is more.” What do I mean by that? Well, this past Friday I was lucky enough to attend a webinar sponsored by ICF that featured Dr. Helen Riess, Director of Empathy and Relational Science at the University of Massachusetts. She shared about “The Power of Empathy,” and one of her most poignant points was that taking care of yourself is one of the MOST important things you can do to help feeling attuned to others.
Dr. Riess offered some circumstances that make empathy more of a struggle for most of us, and I think it’s extremely helpful to see this list:
…when we’re in a rush,
…when we lose our curiosity about a person,
…when we don’t know what to say,
…when we are not fully informed about a person’s specific situation,
…when someone feels helpless,
…when a person criticizes or tries to manipulate us,
…and especially when we’re exhausted and/or burned out.
Dr. Riess emphasized that “...it’s impossible to be empathetic on an empty tank.” I think we’re often our own biggest critic, so it’s crucial to extend that oxygen mask to ourselves first, in the journey of feeling the shoes of another. In fact, I would urge each of us to be mindful of taking consistent steps of self-care to prevent an emotional or physical energy crisis in the first place.
In the meantime, here’s some encouragement to take out time each day to savor the small things…and by doing so, you just might be able to offer exactly what the person next to you needs the most~
Posted by Sandra Clifton on Jan 7, 2014 in Academic Coaching
, Health & Wholeness
As we end this past year and begin a new one, my thoughts always go towards establishing closure. When I taught high school English, it was very important to provide students with the opportunity to reflect and “distill” new information, but I was rarely afforded that opportunity in the fast-paced intensity of changing classes and academic achievement. However, I later learned that psychologists call establishing this safe space for growth as “creating a container.”
Now I honor the need to reflect on the week by attending a yoga class each Friday morning, where my teacher often repeats the phrase, “Complete the pose.” I love that idea, because often in our mega-moment society, we are doing several things at once—something we all know has been heralded as the skill of “multi-tasking.” Unfortunately, even as I type this blog (case in point…) I am on hold with an airline in order to try and trouble-shoot about flight arrangements (egads) for a summer seminar. But the attempt to do many things at once usually means that we get little completed at all. It’s why I think that old turtle actually beat the jack-rabbit: he kept plugging along, doing just one thing: staying on course until the race was won.
As we look back at 2014, it won’t be about counting all the many things that will ultimately matter…What will bring joy is realizing that each small task of completion shaped into a year of well-spent investment. May we savor each small step…and realize that slow and steady is taking each of us in the right direction forward~!