Posted by Sandra Clifton on Jun 4, 2015 in Academic Coaching
, Student Success
I just attended IECA‘s first Northeast Regional Symposium on the “Future of College Admissions,” at Newark’s Airport Marriott this morning. As a Professional Member of this organization, I participated in a very interesting round table discussion which involved perspectives of independent college consultants from the Tri-State area. We had just listened to a panel of admissions reps from the University of Rochester, Swarthmore, Marist, Franklin & Marshall, Wheaton, and Drew University for over two hours, and the topic of “college readiness” surfaced…
One of the panelists had commented that everyone in the room knows that it’s not about getting IN to college that matters most—it’s getting out with a degree. With the knowledge that over 37% of all freshman drop out of school by Thanksgiving, that statement launched a thousand ships, as they say….So as both educators and consultants, it’s part of our work to help families understand this fact: our job is not just to help students and parents choose a school carefully, but to prepare for this whole experience wisely. Another rep highlighted that very often, if kids haven’t identified their challenges and “owned” how to effectively seek help, there are obstacles that can surface on campus as very really foes. He called these enemies “The Three P’s,” and they have the power to wreck havoc in our student’s lives. What are they?
Sound like familiar themes in your home? They are very common challenges here at the Clifton Corner. So I’d like to direct your attention to a helpful document from Landmark College, which may provide some interesting angles for summer reading in the form of a short checklist: https://www.med.upenn.edu/pan/documents/CollegeReadinessGuide.pdf
Midst such a stringent focus on AP or IB classes, SAT prep, and extra-curricular involvements, this guide is a good place to start considering the “soft” skills of metacognition, executive function, confidence, motivation, and self-advocacy, which can be the subtle keys to developing the very resilience that every college student most needs when they leave home—regardless of his or her high GPA.
If you’d like a little more direction and guidance with these efforts, reach out—I’m here all summer and client-ready! 😉
Posted by Sandra Clifton on May 21, 2015 in Emotional Literacy
Yes, there’s been a lot of rain in Brooklyn this spring, but with all that’s going on, it’s also one of the best acronyms I’ve discovered for SEL (Social & Emotional Learning). When we’re being hit with a variety of emotions and struggling with a conflicted situation, it helps to have something super-simple to steady our pulse and focus our attention. I’ve found that R.A.I.N. can provide a quiet oasis of reflection.
Here’s how it works:
Recognize what’s going on…Let yourself acknowledge that your heart is beating (fast), that your palms are sweaty, that your fist might be clenched, that your eyebrows are furled, that your lip is pouting, that your leg is twitching, that your foot is tapping. Take a full scan to see what the landscape of your body is telling you right now.
Allow the experience to be whatever it is for you…I was coaching a college kid the other day who is a natural “nurturer” and she just needed a minute to be human and helpless and hurt—instead of her family’s usual care-taker. One of the most powerful lessons I learned in my coach training was the phrase, “What we resist, persists…” It’s very important to just allow emotions to surface as they are—without trying to twist them into something acceptable or even deniable. I call this ‘riding the wave,’ and scientists have said that if we allow our emotion to flow fully through our body, it lasts exactly 90 seconds. You can do that.
Investigate with kindness….It’s important that we assume the best about our emotions, just when they feel the worst. I learned this as a teacher: the student who was acting “ugly” was the one who most needed my beautiful belief—whether it was because a parent had been unkind about a grade, they were struggling to read, or a friend said they were forever flawed. Our emotions can trick us into believing that we’re worthless, and it’s perhaps the biggest task of our individual journey to approach this moment with complete compassion. Next time you’re upset, try listening to your feelings with the tenderness that you would offer your very best friend or your favorite person on the planet….See what you discover.
Natural awareness….Take the approach that emotions are (as the acronym alludes—) a lot like the weather: conditions develop, accelerate, intensify—and then shift. If we truly allow ourselves to observe the emotions with identifying ourselves as the actual feeling or permanent thought, we can create a neutral space of being rather than blaming. This step is much like a becoming a scientist or a Buddhist–your choice–but either way, we instigate more experiences of curiosity and empathy. I tell clients that we don’t “yell at thunder for being loud,” and it definitely doesn’t last forever.
Introducing other parallels to weather can help kids identify these events without labeling their value. Heartmath has a wonderful tool called “How’s Your Inner Weather?” that I’ve posted on my office door to help in this centering process. You might want to get one for your fridge. In the meantime, here’s to beautiful spring showers–
Posted by Sandra Clifton on Apr 23, 2015 in Academic Coaching
I braved a torrential downpour this past Monday morning to attend the NYSACAC Regional Forum at Fordham University, with other independent educational consultants, high school guidance counselors, and college admissions reps. As the only Professional Member of IECA in Brooklyn, I view attendance as part of my job, and reporting back to you one of the perks of being connected to the Corner.
So here are some highlights about the college process that I’d like to share from our roundtable discussions this spring:
DEMONSTRATED INTEREST: It Matters.
* Colleges are tracking which students open correspondence and when students read the emails that they send them. These actions are recorded as data, and all actions are interpreted as signs of “demonstrated interest” -or- lack thereof…Many reps complain that seniors are ignoring email outreach and confess that this negligence online can definitely dent chances of acceptance.
* Reps at college fair record student visits—even if kids have already introduced themselves and made contact at a school visit or another event, swing by again and reestablish contact. If your senior isn’t “stopping by to say hi while in the neighborhood,” that’s a mistake.
* Colleges are literally diagramming where and when you go online with their school/s, and can tell if you’re checking correspondence from an iPhone or desktop—just an FYI.
* Contrary to popular belief, CUNY expects you to make a college visit. So does every school represented at this conference. If you haven’t made a footprint on campus, chance are close to ‘nil that a college will give any consideration to an applicant–so make sure you reach out to ask for an interview with a local grad and contact the regional reps in your area. The effort to “start a relationship” with a school that you’re interested in these days is an absolute essential.
ETIQUETTE: Your Image is Important.
* Watch your P’s & Q’s. That was a phrase that my parents used to say, and it applies to college admissions—reps disclosed that students are sending them correspondence that looks and sounds like “text talk,” instead of proper spelling and syntax. Needless to say, that “informal approach” actually causes them to wonder about students’ intelligence…
* Speaking of grammar…One college rep stated that the #1 Recommendation that he could offer every senior is to have a qualified professional review your college essay for both polish and content.
* Clean up your online presence. College reps are appalled when they Google your name and discover what you’re saying on Twitter, what you’re posting on Facebook, and what you’re writing on Instagram. As a result, the consensus was (if you haven’t heard it yet) “Sanitize your social media.”
FINANCIAL AID: Money is Tricky.
* One rep commented that if you have financial restrictions, it’s best not to go ED. Something to think about…
* Another rep said that finances are the “huge 100-ton elephant in the room.” If you spend any money on your college application process, I would recommend a financial adviser. Many hearts have been broken when the acceptance arrives, but the financial package does not.
* Did you know that you can appeal the financial aid package—and some schools will even try to match what another institution offered? Reps say to tread carefully here…some admissions committees will review a package but the student must have integrity with this process. If a college takes the time to reconsider and put together another offer because a student says they are their “#1 choice,” they need to follow through with that commitment to attend.
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Hope this info helps!
I’m here if you’d like to examine your own son or daughter’s journey…
And in the meantime, here’s to all the bright and talented seniors this year who have worked so hard to earn their high school diplomas!
Posted by Sandra Clifton on Mar 10, 2015 in Academic Coaching
, Learning Differences
As March brings (much needed) signs of spring, I wanted to let you know of options for summer support at the Corner! There are three “bridge programs” in development: one for rising 5th graders going into middle school; another for rising 9th graders starting high school; and a third for rising seniors who are facing The Common App Personal Statement, supplemental essays, and college choices!
Because I have a cozy space, classes are small and can be tailored for families to fit their children’s specific learning needs and school curriculum–so please take a look at the first program, “Ready Readers & Resilient Writers,” and let me know if you’re interested in creating some wonderful opportunities for learning at the Corner this summer!
Ready Readers & Resilient Writers~!
Summer Support at the Clifton Corner
for Rising 5th Graders
Students who could “benefit from a boost” before beginning middle school are encouraged to apply for Summer Enrichment at the Clifton Corner. Small-group instruction will be offered to help rising 5th graders develop better reading, writing, and critical thinking strategies through a curriculum of individualized attention and creative activities. Participants are supported in a nurturing environment to build tools for stronger self-esteem, perseverance, and academic confidence for a smooth and successful transition to middle school.
MORNING INSTRUCTION: 10AM-12PM
Ready Readers—will shift from ‘learning to read’ to reading to learn. Students will identify core components of literature to better understand theme, characterization, plot development, setting, figurative language, point of view, and an author’s artistic/social agenda. The technique of “FIREWORKS” will be incorporated to support active reading techniques, improve working memory, and boost risk-taking through participating in dynamic small-group discussions.
AFTERNOON INSTRUCTION: 12PM-2PM
Resilient Writers—will be guided through the process of writing: evidence-based techniques in a workshop setting—to explore composition through modeling and independent practice of “perfect paragraphs” and extended essays. Students will learn to active prior knowledge, develop brainstorming strategies, incorporate graphic organizers, identify revision techniques, and gain additional reinforcement for effective editing skills and grammar proficiency.
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Space is limited, and families are encouraged to contact Sandra immediately for more information concerning tuition costs and specific dates, which will be tailored to meet the eclectic summer schedules of actual enrollees. Students can participate in either the AM –or– PM instruction, and are encouraged to enroll in both classes—which will be held for two weeks in July, and possibly again in August.
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Clifton Corner is a safe space in Brooklyn Heights created to provide individualized interventions of academic coaching and SEL support for 2nd-12th graders. Sandra is the only ICF-accredited Professional Coach in Brooklyn certified in Emotional Literacy by Yale University, and has just completed both a post-graduate certificate in Educational Therapy from the University of California-Riverside, along with AET Board Supervision, to become an ET/P (Educational Therapist/Professional). She is also a Professional Member of IECA+ with over 26 years of experience in education, and is licensed through New York State in Special Education and English Education.
I just finished reading the brilliant book, Healing Spaces: The Science of Place and Well-Being, by Esther M. Sternberg, M.D., and it was truly time well-spent. Sternberg expertly documents how sound, smell, nature, and beauty have been largely ignored in our clinical settings, but are absolutely integral to hope, healing, and health—not just for those of us who fall ill, but for the progression of society as a whole. When reporting about the first collaboration of scientists and architects in 2002 at Woods Hole, MA, which ultimately led to the development of the Academy of Neuroscience for Architecture, she writes, “The question…was not so much whether windows and nature views could heal, but how the healing mechanism operated” (2009, pg. 6). Good stuff. I devoured this book in record time because—as an HSP [Highly Sensitive Person] who is aesthetically wired from head to toe—I needed it.
So do my kids. When I was a teacher, some of my students intuitively understood that I couldn’t handle the eerie-buzzing of florescent lights, the blaring bells, and the incessant clicking of pens. We laughed about how I needed to start each class with a “silent sustained reading” of their favorite novel so that I could “gather my senses.” They also enjoyed how I created a visually pleasing room with all kinds of posters, artwork, and sayings—and orchestrated the chairs for better “classroom connections.” (I didn’t know back then it was called “chi” and a cornerstone of feng shui.) But my kids recognized it was important that the place where we spent so much time together lifted not just our intellect but our emotions—and they felt those results in their power to learn, to remember, and to grow.
That’s why Sternberg’s book needs to be translated from personal journeys of medical healing to the most important environment our students encounter each day: school. I’m convinced that if we are able to apply these aesthetic tenets of science to the American educational environment, we’ll reap incredible rewards. It’s one of the reasons that I created the cozy Clifton Corner. I have a theory that just stepping into my sweet study space creates the neuroscience of health and hope—and now I have the theory of “evidence-based design” to help fuel my conviction. Check out Sternberg’s book, or her interview on NPR, and join me in the effort to include artistic angles into building beautiful brains.
Posted by Sandra Clifton on Sep 10, 2014 in The Science of Happiness
Well, it was free, so I signed up to audit an online course created by the University of California at Berkeley. ((It’s the first MOOC to teach positive psychology—learn more about this exciting experiment.)) My first homework assignment—ungraded of course, because any evaluated effort would NOT make me happy!—is to spend 10 minutes thinking of “three good things.”
Here are mine today:
*Good Thing #1: Watching the sweetest girl in the world sing the song from Frozen, “Let It Go.” Her energy and love are absolutely inspiring: watch it here!
*Good Thing #2: I got to leave the office and catch a Pilates class at the gym tonight with my favorite instructor—whoo-hooo! (Most evenings I am in sessions until after 8pm, so this was a wonderful thing for sure!)
*Good Thing #3: I treated myself to framing a certificate from the seminar that I attended in Italy about helping clients heal from psychological trauma, and hung it in my office. Not only is this a beautiful memento, but now I feel the presence of my professor, encouraging me to keep going on…
Okay, that was a really nice ten minutes. Now you try.
Here’s to happiness–yours and mine.
Posted by Sandra Clifton on Jun 26, 2014 in Academic Coaching
, Health & Wholeness
Want a great tip for instigating efficiency, getting unstuck, or just helping ideas to flow again? Get up and get GOING: one of the best strategies for helping kids (and ourselves) to unlock our brains is to move our bods…!
Recently, I read this quote from a text on ADHD: “When I get bogged down on a project,” reflects Susan, an OT in California, “I go walking and am able to get the whole concept. Then I can move forward.” Brilliant, right?
The next time you or someone in your family gets frustrated, smile and say, “Oh, go take a hike!” They just might thank you. 😉 And if you need support to get in the flow this summer, don’t hesitate to reach out—in the meantime, see ya on the trails!
Posted by Sandra Clifton on Apr 30, 2014 in Academic Coaching
As we head down to the wire for college decisions due on May 1st, I met with a senior client and his mother today…It was an intense discussion and a rewarding one. The family walked in with a “great problem”—four choices—and they left with clarity about the one that’s the best fit for their son. This is why I do my work: to help support the journey of owning who we are and claiming our authenticity.
When it comes right down to it, after all the charts and graphs are drawn with pro’s and con’s, what matters most is actually in our gut. What I admire so greatly, especially about this particular student, is that he really did his homework—so that after months of visits and interviews, he could release all the rankings and reports and trust what felt best in the end—which is really just the beginning….
I do my research too. In the last month, I’ve attended two really great meetings on college admissions, and I’d like to share a potpourri of perspectives that I gained through one of them. I promise to offer more tid-bits from Cooper Union soon. In the meantime…
The NYSACAC Regional Forum—held at the Lincoln Center Campus of Fordham University:
* One important insight I learned from a former college counselor at Cooper Union is that, although CUNY doesn’t require essays, YOU SHOULD STILL SEND THEM!
* If your essay gives a “voice” that really speaks to someone on the admissions team, there is often a rule that each person “gets just one.” This means that every member on the committee gets to have one student admitted, with no questions asked. You might be That One if you take the chance to really speak your truth in that essay…
* Often, admissions teams have individuals with a “niche” population—for example, Fordham has a special person who reads applications of homeschooled students.
* Colleges are looking for students who are able to translate how their institution’s values have been pursued by the applicant during high school. Students need to “connect the dots” as to how they have invested their time in academics and extra-curriculars that directly relate to the college’s programs.
* One of my colleagues who used to work at Columbia University did a study there about students who declared majors on their applications vs. their majors at graduation, and unless the student was a computer science major or engineer, there was absolutely NO correlation: 0%.
* If you are an athlete, be careful of NON-approved NCAA high school courses, as they may jeopardize your eligibility to play. You can learn more at www.eligibilitycenter.org.
I hope this information provides some insight for your college journey. And if you need someone to help you sort through the great options once they come trickling in….you can always find clarity with me at the Corner.
Posted by Sandra Clifton on Mar 17, 2014 in Academic Coaching
I just got off the phone with one of the mothers of my three senior clients, who I’ll call “Amy.” I’ve been working with Amy since she was in 8th grade, and we’ve now received three amazing college acceptances to some truly wonderful liberal arts schools. I couldn’t be more happy, as all of my encouragement that the VOICE on her college essay is what would be the loudest has come true…. despite struggles with standardized testing, high school disappointments, and other bobbles along the way…One admission rep even made a note about how touched she was by Amy’s personal essay on the meaning of family. What’s even more interesting is that, although my client was accepted to her “dream college,” the personalized attention from another institution has given her pause…and she may actually change her mind to attend the school that is truly “seeing” what Amy has to offer and recognizing her unique gifts. THIS is what it’s all about at the Clifton Corner, but that’s a blog for another day…For now, I want to pass along some important stats and facts that may help to inform you better about the college process. They are originally compiled and provided by college guru and author, Ana Homayoun, Founder and Director of Green Ivy Educational Consulting:
College Admissions by Numbers
31% of colleges offering Early Action (EA)
65% Percent of EA applicants admitted
84% Percent of college freshmen who think they will graduate in four years
38% Actual percentage of students who graduate from college in four years
80% Percent of valedictorians rejected by Harvard every year
69% Percent of applicants with a perfect SAT score of 2400 rejected by Stanford
Facts and Figures
“More colleges are offering Early Decision (ED) and Early Action (EA) and more students are utilizing these options. ED can give an advantage at highly selective colleges and some of those schools fill up to 40% of their freshman class with ED. Personally, I like the Early Action option for students who are solid candidates and have appropriate grades and test scores – apply early and hear early, with no commitment to attend. While I believe Early Decision is an option that can enhance the odds of admission at highly selective schools, it must be considered very carefully.
Many high schools are dropping the class ranking from a student’s profile, and admissions counselors are placing a greater emphasis on a student’s curriculum, activities, and demonstrated interest (how badly do you want to go to the school?).
In 1982, 74% college freshmen went to their first choice school. In 2012, 59% went to their first choice school. In 2012, 13% could not afford to go to their first choice school. 76% believe current economics had an effect on where they matriculated. I believe there need to be multiple “first choice” schools and students should include financial “likely” schools in the mix as well.
84% of college freshmen believe they will graduate from college in four years. National statistics show only 38% do. Despite being worried about financing for college, many end up paying for a fifth year, especially when going to larger public colleges and universities. In other words, look past the tuition price and factor in time to graduate, as well as merit scholarships at private schools. For example, in California, the typical time to degree for entering freshmen at the California State Universityis 5.6 years. Typical time to degree for entering freshmen at the University of California school is 4.2 years. This needs to be factored into the cost of the college.
There are 19,000 seats in the entire Ivy League’s freshman class – all 8 of them combined (and there are 25,000 high schools in the US – do the math!). Harvard rejects 80% of the valedictorians who apply each year (and 94% of everyone else).
69% of the Stanford applicants who scored a perfect 2400 on the SAT were rejected. When a college has an admit rate of less than 30% (and Stanford’s is about 7%), then it is tough even for the applicant who is valedictorian or who aces the SAT. We always work with students to create a college list and apply broadly with dream, target, and likely colleges.
Approximately 2.94 million students graduate from 25,000 high schools each year. This means each college applicant is competing against 25,000 valedictorians, 25,000 salutatorians, 25,000 editors-in-chief, and 25,000 student body presidents. If they are wise, they are applying to some of the most competitive colleges, some less competitive, and one of their own state university.
Acceptance rates for four-year institutions declined slightly during the past decade, from a national average of 69.6 percent in 2002 to 63.8 percent in 2011. So, don’t despair – there are colleges for everyone who desires to go to college.”
I couldn’t agree more…But just remember that at the Corner, it’s not about the score–I’m here to help your son or daughter SOAR. And I’ve got all kinds of examples of how that happens through individualized attention and intuitive educational support. Don’t wait until my calendar is full this summer: contact me this spring to schedule some sessions for that amazing essay that will get Y*O*U*R young person in the door~!
I grew up in a world where adults were involved in my life—a lot. Almost too much. Of course, I was both a preacher’s kid and a teacher’s daughter, and everyone had a voice about how I lived my life. In fact, I actually got lost in everyone else’s opinions. But I heard a program on NPR the other day about how kids feel like the only thing that adults ask them these days is, “How’s school?” Oh, how droll. We can do better than that. And we should.
Here are some lovely guidelines about how to connect with kids in a deeper, more genuine way—provided by The Search Institute:
Adults can . . .
- Listen to young people.
- Notice young people’s contributions and gifts.
- Ask young people for their advice.
- Include young people in decisions.
- Give young people meaningful roles.
- Help young people make their dreams come true.
- Find out young people’s opinions.
- Celebrate young people’s accomplishments.
- Take seriously young people’s fears and worries.
- Learn the reasons for young people’s feelings.
- See young people as important contributors to your community in the present and in the future.
- Learn about music, books, and activities that are important to young people.
Would you like support to connect with your kid? I’d love to explore how that can happen. Don’t hesitate to reach out.